Embracing Sober Curiosity - Edition 3

Jun 05, 2024

I became sober curious in my mid 40’s.  I had been a very high functioning heavy drinker on and off since my divorce in my early 30’s. You can hear more about my story in Episode 2 of my podcast “Embrace Midlife with Belinda Stark”, head to the podcast tab on my website or also available on Apple and Spotify,  PLUS I have created a FREE E-book about Sober Curiosity, head to Freebies on the website to download.  It includes some of my real-life experiences. I also offer various coaching packages including a service specifically for grey area drinking.

Imagine a life where you wake up feeling refreshed, vibrant, and ready to take on the day without the lingering effects of last night's drink. For many midlife women, the concept of "sober curiosity" is becoming increasingly appealing. Sober curiosity invites individuals to question their relationship with alcohol and explore the benefits of a sober lifestyle without necessarily committing to complete abstinence. This growing movement is transforming lives, offering a pathway to greater health, clarity, and fulfillment.

What is Sober Curiosity?

Sober curiosity is the conscious decision to seek out and experience life without relying on alcohol. Unlike traditional sobriety, which often involves a commitment to abstain from drinking entirely, sober curiosity allows for flexibility and personal exploration. It's about making mindful choices regarding alcohol consumption and understanding how it impacts your life, health, and well-being.

Why Midlife Women are Embracing Sober Curiosity

Midlife is a period of significant change and reflection. As women navigate the challenges of career transitions, family dynamics, and personal growth, many are re-evaluating their habits and lifestyle choices. Here’s why sober curiosity is resonating with so many:

  1. Health Benefits: Reducing or eliminating alcohol can lead to improved physical health, better sleep, increased energy levels, and weight management. It also lowers the risk of long-term health issues such as liver disease, cardiovascular problems, and certain cancers.

  2. Peri/Menopause: For many women hot flashes, mood swings & belly fat are all improved when they eliminate alcohol. 

  3. Mental Clarity: Alcohol can cloud judgment and contribute to anxiety and depression. Many women find that sobriety enhances mental clarity, emotional stability, and overall mental health.

  4. Empowerment and Control: Taking a break from alcohol provides a sense of empowerment and control over one’s life. It’s an opportunity to make conscious decisions and prioritize self-care.

  5. Improved Relationships: Without alcohol, relationships with family and friends can become more authentic and meaningful. Communication improves, and social interactions become more genuine.

  6. Rediscovering Passions: Sober curiosity often leads to the discovery of new hobbies and interests. With a clear mind and more free time, many women find joy in activities they had forgotten or never had the chance to pursue.



    Practical Tips for Exploring Sober Curiosity

    If you’re considering a journey into sober curiosity, here are some practical steps to get started:


    • Set Clear Intentions: Define your reasons for exploring sobriety and what you hope to gain from it. This will help you stay motivated and focused.

    • Start Small: Begin by setting short-term goals, such as a week or a month without alcohol. Use this time to observe how you feel physically and emotionally.

    • 1:1 Coaching: I offer personalized one-on-one coaching tailored specifically for the Sober Curious/Grey Area Drinking woman, it is called 'Intensive Focus Package: Empower Your Drinking Decisions'. You can read more about it on my website, it's designed to really drill down on your relationship with alcohol and grey area drinking. If you want to really focus on moderating or abstain this is for you. I offer a free, no obligation, confidential connection call which we can do via Zoom or just on the phone.

    • Seek Support:Join sober curiosity groups or online communities where you can share experiences and gain support from like-minded individuals in a group environment. I joined a group named ‘Thrivalist’ and this offers excellent resources and support.  I have mentored in this group and coached some women as an accountability buddy.

    • Create New Rituals: Replace the habit of drinking with new, healthy routines. This could be a relaxing evening walk, a warm cup of herbal tea, or a soothing bath.

    • Be Kind to Yourself: Remember, this is a personal journey. It’s okay to take it one day at a time and to be compassionate with yourself throughout the process.  I believe this is extremely key to supporting you on the sober journey.


    If you’re ready to explore life beyond alcohol and need personalized support, I’m here to help. Contact me for bespoke one-on-one coaching tailored to your unique needs and challenges. Together, we can create a plan to help you break free from grey area drinking and rediscover joy and purpose in your life. Reach out to me at [email protected]  or DM me on Instagram to learn more and schedule a free, no obligation, confidential connection call (via Zoom or phone). There is also a free E-book under Free Resources on the website.  

    In Love & Light,

    Belinda x


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